I deliberately publish this publicly on my personal site hoping that my girlfriend, SL, will see this one day.

How do you forgive someone for breaking your trust…? I have a needy kind of personality. Don’t worry, she does too.

I feel like I’ve been making an effort to forgive her; But, I have felt a daily recurring animosity towards her for the past 2 weeks (since it happened) for the act she did to break my trust. At least once a day I’m reminded of how she’d betrayed my trust by breaking a promise that she’d reaffirmed over and over the week before breaking it. The worst thing about this whole ordeal for me is that so many things make me jealous now, even her removal of my posts on her Facebook… As stupid as it sounds. I hate this feeling.

I hope this is true…

How First Fights Make Relationships Stronger

First fights define relationships. They reaffirm the couple’s commitment to one another and if they are worked through properly they can make a relationship stronger. While it is always scary to fight for the first time it is important to acknowledge that fights are normal and that they happen in every close relationship.

Why you fight is important but it is how you fight that determines whether or not the conflict will strengthen your bond or stretch it to the limit. Break ups are not the inevitable outcome of the first fight although fearing it will lead to a break up is normal.

If a first fight leads to a break up it simply means the foundation of the relationship was not very strong. For good relationships the first fight will solidify things. By wanting to work through conflict rather than run away couples show each other that they are there for a long time, not just for a good time. This realization is an important one.

First fights don’t have to be negative. They are a sign that your relationship is moving to a new, more intimate and more committed level. Isn’t that a good thing?