Archive for March, 2013

How long does it take to forgive your girlfriend for cheating on you?

The truth? At least a year, but I have no definitive answer for you.

Once you’ve been cheated on and don’t leave the person who cheated on you – at least the next year of your life will be spent wondering if that person is going to cheat on you again. You’ll be thrown into a world of untrusting, heartache, jealousy, pain, rage, and hate. You’ll live your every waking moment away from that person wondering what they’re doing, who they’re talking to, and when they’re going to put themselves in a position to hurt you again, which will be daily. Every moment spent with that person will be pretty much okay because you have their attention but once you lose that attention to a phone, or facebook, or some other means of interacting with another person… all bets are off. Every phone call or text message with someone else will drive you into a state of angsty heart breaking wondering about who they’re talking to and what it’s about.

You’ll obsess over it with every second that passes by because it’s your heart we’re talking about here. Why wouldn’t you? You’ve given them your heart once and they destroyed it. In they beginning, they’ll try hard but they’ll continue to make similar mistakes by testing your bounds with seemingly little to no regard for the state of your heart until it’s too late. Your heart will no longer be in pieces – It will now be in the form of little fine dust that has no recognizable format.

One thing I would have done differently through the entire process:

The best thing to do to avoid this situation is to provide blanket statements about all your expectations right up front in the very beginning. Everything about what you’ll allow or not allow and postfix them all individually with a clause that you will leave immediately if these rules are broken. If you don’t reprogram this up front then you’re setting yourself up for a world of hurt later.

She’ll ask about your feelings and how you’re coping with the hurt and you should tell her even if it’s stupid. When she realizes the answer that you gave is not the answer that she expected she’ll get upset. Most likely at herself but she’ll call you selfish and jealous and direct her frustrations about herself at you. You’ll remind her that she cheated on you over and over again like a broken record, and you’ll both be hurt every time it’s brought up. Although that sucks for both parties, you have every right to do that until you’re completely over it. If she can’t accept the consequences of what she’s done that’s fine. Only two things could happen from it.

  1. She’ll eventually change and learn over time to be who you need her to be and your relationship might be stronger after that.
  2. She’ll give up trying to be someone she’s not and finally set you free like she should have done. She’ll move on to cheating on someone else and continue on her path of unhappiness until she finds the one for her.

Hopefully it’s number one.

The things you tell her about your feelings will make absolutely no logical sense but that’s the way it is I guess.

If you can grasp the following statement then you’ll feel a lot better about yourself and be able to hold your composure in the relationship much better:

You can’t control what she does. You can’t control who she talks to. If she’s going to cheat on you again then she’s going to do it and there’s nothing you can do about it short of locking her up in a box with no communications to the outside world. You don’t want to put her in that situation so just learn to accept it.

It’s her choice to ruin her life and forever, her choice, it will remain.

That’s all I know for now. I’ll update this post or you’ll find another post about the subject matter here on my blog if that feeling ever goes away.

CodeIgniter PHP Script to replace all spaces in columns with underscores – mySQL

$tables = $this->db->query(‘SHOW TABLES’)->result();
foreach($tables as $table):
$table = $table->Tables_in_$table_name;
echo “\n\n{$table} – “;
foreach($this->db->query(“SHOW FIELDS FROM {$table}”)->result() as $column):
echo $column->Field . ‘ | ‘;
$this->db->query(“ALTER TABLE `{$table}` CHANGE `{$column->Field}` `”.strtolower(str_replace(‘ ‘, ‘_’, $column->Field)).”` “.str_replace(‘(‘,’ (‘,$column->Type));
endforeach;
endforeach;
echo “\n\nDONE\n\n”;

Where is the AdWords API Center for MCC accounts?

1) Log in to your MCC Account - https://adwords.google.com

2) Click “My Account” and then click “AdWords API Center”

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Hopefully this helps someone out there to find it a little easier.

 

 

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