Archive for May, 2012

When she says “It just happened”

When a woman doesn’t want to take responsibility for her actions, she blames it on “It just happened.” If you don’t believe me, watch Divorce Court on television. Of course, men never question this nonsensical statement, much less think about what it actually means. Yet, if her indiscretion were a self-help book, it would be called: How to Avoid Guilt with Men, or How to Use Them: A Beginner’s Guide for Victimizers.

“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” — Mark Twain

Fuck you too. She’s going to be too tired to come tomorrow because she decided to start a shuffle session that won’t be over till dawn. She doesn’t give a shit. I’m done asking. I’m done.

I need to downgrade this relationship.

Have you ever been in ____? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.You build up all these defenses, then one stupid preson, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your life….You give them a piece of you. They didn’t ask for it.They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn’t your own anymore. ____ takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like ‘maybe we should be just friends’ turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It’s a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate ____.

Lowering expectations for a happier life

Don’t ever get too comfortable and start expecting things from anyone, including your girlfriend, SL. Lower your expectations for her and you won’t get hurt as easily. Don’t make promises. The easiest thing to do would be to not listen what she has to say. Chances are she won’t do it anyway. If you don’t believe anything that comes out of her mouth then there’s nothing to worry about. Winner.
I’m going to keep repeating this to myself and one day I’ll forget to repeat it to myself and maybe it’ll be true. By then, I will have most likely removed her from my life.

The problem with what I’ve written here is that I am incapable of any of it… I just want her to care about my feelings a little more…

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Google says get out in a i’mnotogoingtomatchanyarticlesforyouandtellyouwhatireallythink kind of way.


Mending a Broken Trust. (First Fight)

I deliberately publish this publicly on my personal site hoping that my girlfriend, SL, will see this one day.

How do you forgive someone for breaking your trust…? I have a needy kind of personality. Don’t worry, she does too.

I feel like I’ve been making an effort to forgive her; But, I have felt a daily recurring animosity towards her for the past 2 weeks (since it happened) for the act she did to break my trust. At least once a day I’m reminded of how she’d betrayed my trust by breaking a promise that she’d reaffirmed over and over the week before breaking it. The worst thing about this whole ordeal for me is that so many things make me jealous now, even her removal of my posts on her Facebook… As stupid as it sounds. I hate this feeling.

I hope this is true…

How First Fights Make Relationships Stronger

First fights define relationships. They reaffirm the couple’s commitment to one another and if they are worked through properly they can make a relationship stronger. While it is always scary to fight for the first time it is important to acknowledge that fights are normal and that they happen in every close relationship.

Why you fight is important but it is how you fight that determines whether or not the conflict will strengthen your bond or stretch it to the limit. Break ups are not the inevitable outcome of the first fight although fearing it will lead to a break up is normal.

If a first fight leads to a break up it simply means the foundation of the relationship was not very strong. For good relationships the first fight will solidify things. By wanting to work through conflict rather than run away couples show each other that they are there for a long time, not just for a good time. This realization is an important one.

First fights don’t have to be negative. They are a sign that your relationship is moving to a new, more intimate and more committed level. Isn’t that a good thing?


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