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On my CS partner

I’ve been wanting to blog again for a while but I just haven’t found the time until now. I’m not sure if this will make much sense because I’m just going to free form it and type whatever comes to mind so bare with me.

I’ve been spending a lot of time with my CS partner, I won’t name her here because I’m not looking to talk shit but there’s just something I have to mention about her type that makes me angry with the world in general. Her type is pretty, nice, nearly perfect in every way except one. She uses other people to get things done and her ability to do it comes from the way society treats beautiful people. Like kings… but in her case I guess we can substitute queens.  She doesn’t seem to see anything inherently wrong about using people. She can just do it, and move on like nothing happened; Her own admittance, not something I just came up with.

That being said, I can’t help but wonder where I fall into place in her world. Am I a friend or just someone she uses to get by? I’ll admit that I do enjoy being around her because she’s so pretty and very nice to me but lately, especially today, I couldn’t get over what she said about using people. Maybe I’m just jealous because I haven’t figured out how to control people like that. Maybe that’s why I’m such a firm believer in the do it yourself method. Damn, my life would be easier if I was beautiful.

Can’t pay attention… ltr

Just a thought

After spending nearly 48 hours straight with Victoria and finishing our project I noticed that I am being nicer to people… and it feels good.

Maybe I should be nicer to people all the time. I think, it will help me change my outlook on life. It’s not all about work any more!

Happy Chinese New Year!

Gung Hay Fat Choy! (Wishing you fortune)
Sun Tai Geen Hong! (Wishing you good health)
Man Si Yu Yi! (Wishing you a thousand wishes)
Sum Sung Si Cheng! (Wishing you your heart’s fulfillment)
Bo Bo Go Sing! (May every step be higher and higher)

When women tell you their problems…

Unless they ask explicitly, they aren’t asking you to help them solve their problems; They’re actually asking for emotional understanding.

How to not sound rude.

Today I did a little bit of soul searching after I went to a recruiting dinner with Victoria at CoCo’s becuase she told me I sounded really rude to the recruiters. Of course, from my own point of view I didn’t realize that I was being rude and therein lied the problem; This wasn’t the first time I’ve been told that I’m rude to people. However, by writing this I’m not saying that I’ve figured it out because I know that I have a long way to go to fix this problem but I narrowed it down to a couple things. Myself, I’m rude sounding to people that I just meet especially business people because I’m uncomfortable with them and it’s all just business to me; This is bad! Some things to watch for:

1. Don’t be snippy with your words, drag them out a little longer; People are different from computers.

2. Don’t state things so matter-of-factly.

3. Watch your tone and give it some fluxes instead of being monotone.

4. If all else fails, smile. Smiles make everything better.

Maybe this will help someone else out there,

Alvin

p.s.: For the record, the recruiter singled me out at the end and told me to come by the table. I couldn’t have been that rude!

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